Dear Laura…Hooking Up is NOT a Required Course

Hooking up is one of those interesting college activities that doesn’t seem to be going away. As tempting as it might be to join in, there are a few things that you might want to consider:

  • One: Do you really want to be just a hook up?
  • Two: If you hook up with this person, do you know what that means…really?
  • Three: Why are you hooking up with this person?

If you want to be more than a hook up, then don’t settle.  I recently told a group of students at a college in Iowa that if you want to be a hook up, and that’s all you want to be, then fine.  However, the truth is that there are quite a few female and male students that want more than a hook up, and are doing it in hopes of getting a relationship.

What I also have learned is that most students have different definitions for a “hook up.”  Some automatically think that it  means sex, while other students define it as a hot a heavy–but fully clothed–make out session.  So, you might want to ask the potential “hookee” (person you’re hooked up with) what their expectations are.

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Again, if all you want is a hook up, then be sure that is all that you want.  But, if you are bored, tired of studying, drunk, or simply giving in to peer pressure (hey, it happens), then perhaps hooking up is not what you need to do.  Making excuses for why you’re hooking up is just as bad as settling for a hook up.

In the end, be sure that you know what you’re doing when you’re doing it (or not doing it).

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